A Writer’s Life: Getting It All Done (Somehow) with Lindsay Harrel
I’m excited to introduce my “A Writer’s Life” guest this month: Lindsay Harrel. I’ve known Lindsay for several years, since our pre-published days, and so it’s really fun to be able to introduce you to her debut women’s fiction novel with Thomas Nelson, The Heart Between Us! I happen to relate a lot to Lindsay’s post today because I started my publishing journey with two little boys at home as well. Things are easier now that they’re both in school and have their own lives (more of a social life than I do, in fact) but I remember those exhausted early days all too well. Without further ado, here’s Lindsay!
Getting It All Done… Somehow
People often ask me how I find time to write books with two little kids at home.
The answer I want to give them? “Oh, it’s simple. I just have my super-organized list, check off each item with ease, and viola! Manuscript complete. Social media posts posted. Dinner made. Laundry folded. Children flourishing.”
But the truth? “Somehow.”
Honestly, I actually am a really big planner. I love to-do lists, and I do think they help me. But sometimes I look at my list and I get suuuuuper overwhelmed. Like, my eyes bug out and I just wanna crawl under the covers and eat chocolate and never come out again. That kind of overwhelmed.
I am grateful that I have family in town to help watch my children (a 3yo and 10mo) while on deadline. My stepmom, mother-in-law, and husband are wonderful during these intense times of writing and editing!
Even when I’m not on deadline, I typically have one day a week when someone keeps the kids for me. But I thought it’d be fun to give you a peek into what a typical day might look like for me when I have the kids at home. Ready?
5 am: Alarm goes off. I groan and reset it for 5:30.
5:30 am: Alarm goes off again. I reluctantly throw back the covers, pull myself out of bed, and head downstairs to the couch, where I try to stay awake enough to read my Bible, do a Bible study, write in my prayer journal, etc. (Notice I do not make coffee. Can’t stand the stuff, though some mornings I’m tempted. Do you think I could just get it via IV so I don’t have to deal with the taste?)
6 am: I make my husband’s breakfast and lunch before he heads out the door. Then I stick a bottle in the bottle warmer for the baby, who likes to wake anywhere between 6 and 6:30.
6:30 am: Feed the baby. Bring him downstairs to play while I check my email, prep breakfast, and/or finish up the Bible study I may have fallen asleep through.
7/7:30 am: The toddler (aka Hurricane Elliott) wakes up. We eat breakfast, play, read, clean up, etc.
9 am: The baby goes down for a nap. I do social media stuff while my toddler watches TV. (Don’t judge! Sometimes, he plays outside instead. But yeah.)
10/10:30 am: Baby up. We run some sort of errand: grocery store (Walmart grocery pickup has changed my life, you guys!), gym, library, Costco, etc.
12/12:30 pm: Back home for lunch!
1:30-3:30 pm: The boys are down for nap (thank goodness my toddler still naps). This is my prime work time (I’m typing this while my kiddos sleep, in fact). If I’m in drafting mode, I try to get one scene written during naptime. If I’m editing, I just do as much as I can. If I’m in marketing mode, I write guest posts, create spreadsheets, send emails, etc. Usually, this is my best time to be creative though, so I try to put this time aside to do things I can’t easily do when the kids are awake.
3:30 pm: The kids are up! We play a bit, then I make dinner while they play independently or have screen time. If I was awesome and made a crockpot meal earlier, then I use this time to do more admin/social media/email stuff.
5/5:30 pm: My husband is home (hallelujah!) and we eat dinner as a family. This is super important to us and something we try to make a priority no matter how busy.
6/6:30 pm: We have tried to start going for family walks in the evening (we live in Phoenix, so the weather is gorgeous right about now!). This is great for talking and getting some energy out of the toddler.
7/7:30 pm: Put the kids to bed. Drag myself downstairs. This is where I really waffle between putting on an episode of This Is Us, reading, hanging with my husband, or making myself work. Usually I split the difference. Half the time, I do something relaxing. Half the time, I work. Sometimes, I make myself work for an hour, then relax for an hour.
10 pm: I try to be in bed by 10 and then usually read or look at Facebook for 30 minutes.
Then I start all over again the next day.
On the weekends is when I attempt to clean (although I’m currently staring at four laundry baskets full of unfolded clothes…I won’t tell you how long they’ve been there) and meal plan for the next week.
I do try to take Sundays off so I can get a little bit of refreshment.
As you can see, the time I get to actually work on writing each day is not a lot—maybe 3-5 hours. But somehow (there’s that word again!), it all gets done. I try to remember that God called me to this writing thing, and he called me to this mommy thing.
And he equips those who he calls.
Sometimes, I get really exhausted by all that’s on my plate. But I’m also thankful, because I truly am living my dream. It doesn’t always look the way I thought it would, but that’s okay. It’s my life, and I love it.
Lindsay Harrel is a lifelong book nerd who lives in Arizona with her young family and two golden retrievers in serious need of training. She’s held a variety of writing and editing jobs over the years, and now juggles stay-at-home mommyhood with writing novels. When she’s not writing or chasing after her children, Lindsay enjoys making a fool of herself at Zumba, curling up with anything by Jane Austen, and savoring sour candy one piece at a time. Her second novel, The Heart Between Us, releases March 13. Connect with her at www.LindsayHarrel.com.
About The Heart Between Us
Megan Jacobs always wished for a different heart. Her entire childhood was spent in and out of hospitals, sitting on the sidelines while her twin sister Crystal played all the sports, got all the guys, and had all the fun. But even a heart transplant three years ago wasn’t enough to propel Megan’s life forward. She’s still working as a library aide and living with her parents in her small Minnesota hometown, dreaming of the adventure she plans to take “once she’s well enough.” Meanwhile, her sister is a successful architect with a handsome husband and the perfect life—or so Megan thinks.
When her heart donor’s parents give Megan their teenage daughter’s journal—complete with an unfulfilled bucket list—Megan connects with the girl she meets between the pages and is inspired to venture out and check off each item. Caleb—a friend from her years in and out of the hospital—reenters her life and pushes her to find the courage to take the leap and begin her journey. She’s thrown for a loop when Crystal offers to join her for reasons of her own, but she welcomes the company and the opportunity to mend their tenuous relationship.
As Megan and Crystal check items off the bucket list, Megan fights the fears that have been instilled in her after a lifetime of illness. She must choose between safety and adventure and learn to embrace the heart she’s been given so that she can finally share it with the people she loves most.
Tags: Lindsay Harrel, The Heart Between Us, women's fiction
Melissa Henderson says:
I have read The Heart Between Us and it is a wonderful story. 🙂
On March 5, 2018 at 8:50 am
Carla says:
I just started reading it… it’s a really fun premise!
On March 5, 2018 at 9:44 am
Lindsay Harrel says:
Thank you, Melissa!
On March 5, 2018 at 2:36 pm
Carrie says:
A Heart Between Us looks like a great book!
On March 5, 2018 at 10:18 am
Carla says:
I can never turn down sister relationships or travel. When you read it, let us know what you think!
On March 5, 2018 at 11:38 am
Lindsay Harrel says:
Thanks, Carrie!
On March 5, 2018 at 2:36 pm
Myra says:
I love the idea of this book. I have a sister with a heart condition too. Looking forward to reading it. Lindsay, I can sooo relate to “somehow it all gets done” I’m a mom of 4 ranging from almost 13 to just turned 1! And I squeeze in a part time at home job as well. Carla, thanks for introducing us to Lindsay.
On March 5, 2018 at 10:18 am
Carla says:
Oh goodness, Myra, you are a BUSY mom! Respect! Thanks for dropping by to hang out with us this morning.
On March 5, 2018 at 11:39 am
Lindsay Harrel says:
Wow, how interesting that you can relate to Crystal, then. And you sound even busier than me. I feel like I’m drowning often with just two!
On March 5, 2018 at 2:37 pm
Melony Teague says:
Thank you for this post! Nice to “meet” you Lindsay!
On March 5, 2018 at 11:55 am
Lindsay Harrel says:
Nice to meet you too, Melony! Gotta love the Internet for that. 🙂
On March 5, 2018 at 2:38 pm
Carla says:
Hi Melony! Thanks for stopping by! One of these days you need to meet Lindsay in person. She gives great hugs. 🙂
On March 6, 2018 at 9:23 am
Chanel Monroe says:
Lovely post. It’s really encouraging to hear that God equips us to handle all the things He calls us to and how He’s equipped you in your day-to-day. I also loved reading the blurb for The Heart Between Us; it leads me to believe that it will be romantic, hopeful and showcase bravery in spite of fear. Plus, I love books with travel. I can’t wait to read it!
On March 5, 2018 at 1:59 pm
Lindsay Harrel says:
Thank you, Chanel. I hope you find it to be all of those things. And yes! He really does equip us…I’m so glad and have to remind myself of it when I’m stressed.
On March 5, 2018 at 2:39 pm
Carla says:
Thanks for dropping by, Chanel! Hope you love Lindsay’s book! I love playing book matchmaker!
On March 6, 2018 at 9:23 am
Meghan says:
This sounds like such a good book. I love the cover too. : )
On March 5, 2018 at 2:08 pm
Lindsay Harrel says:
Thanks, Meghan. I think the design team did a fabulous job!
On March 5, 2018 at 2:39 pm
Carla says:
It’s great, isn’t it? It was what really got my attention. 🙂
On March 6, 2018 at 9:22 am
Jackie L. says:
The Heart Between Us sounds like a great read!! I’m adding to my To-Read List!! 🙂
On March 5, 2018 at 4:13 pm
Carla says:
Yay! Let me know what you think!
On March 6, 2018 at 9:22 am
Lindsay Harrel says:
Thanks so much, Jackie. I hope you enjoy it.
On March 6, 2018 at 1:31 pm
Tiffany says:
I have read this and truly enjoyed it! Such a unique story!
On March 5, 2018 at 7:12 pm
Carla says:
That’s great, Tiffany! Thanks so much for sharing!
On March 6, 2018 at 9:21 am
Stephanie H. says:
I look forward to reading your new book. It sounds like a wonderful and powerful story that I will enjoy!
On March 6, 2018 at 8:09 am
Carla says:
Thanks for stopping by, Stephanie! I hope you enjoy Lindsay’s book!
On March 6, 2018 at 9:21 am
Sonnetta Jones says:
As a twin myself I love these types of stories. I was very close to my sister.
On March 6, 2018 at 8:13 am
Carla says:
That’s so interesting, Sonnetta! You’d definitely have a unique perspective on sibling relationships.
On March 6, 2018 at 9:20 am
Janet Estridge says:
My toddler will be 40 this year.
Enjoy each and every day, before you know it, they too will be 40.
On March 6, 2018 at 8:35 am
Carla says:
I’m really not sure how my oldest is turning 13 this summer. The saying “the days are long but the years are fast” is absolutely true.
On March 6, 2018 at 9:20 am
Beth says:
I love these “a day in the life of” posts. They make me feel much better about feeling like every part of my day has to go to something specific. I’m not a mom (yet! next year, I hope!), but I am married, work a full-time job, and am a part-time graduate student. I also try to move my body somehow a few times a week, haha. I think it’s easy to think that we’re all in this thing alone, when really, we’re all in it together doing the best we can.
Really looking forward to your book, Lindsay, and I admire how you take care of your family and still do the good work God has called you to do.
On March 6, 2018 at 8:40 am
Carla says:
I think you’re exactly right, Beth! It helps to know we’re all more or less in the same boat. 🙂
On March 6, 2018 at 9:19 am
Lindsay Harrel says:
I love what you said, Beth! It’s so easy to feel like we are the only one, but really most of us have so much in common!
On March 6, 2018 at 1:33 pm
Patrice La Vigne says:
I was tired just reading about your typical day!!! Amazing stamina & discipline! But I agree with you … lists are the best. And glad you have family to help you out a bit!
On March 6, 2018 at 12:19 pm
Patty says:
I thoroughly enjoyed One More Song to Sing and look forward to your new release.
On March 6, 2018 at 6:37 pm
Heidi Robbins says:
I’ve got young ones at home and I can totally relate! “Somehow” is how we get things done around here too 😉
On March 7, 2018 at 10:47 am
Kelly Blackwell says:
Lindsay I am exhausted after just reading your day! I do admire that you get up and do your Bible reading and devotions first. I need to add that to the beginning of my day. It is really such a great way to set the tone.
On March 11, 2018 at 9:34 am